For the last three month’s I have been trialling TOTM’s new menstrual cup when I am on my period, this blog post will give you a comprehensive overview of the cup itself, why using a cup is great, and whether or not I would recommend you buy it.

To start off with, before I got this cup to try, I was already using another menstrual cup called the Mooncup, which I wasn’t getting on with, so I was really hoping that TOTM’s cup would live up to my expectations, as I was unable to carry on using the other cup I’d been trying out.

First Appearances:

Amongst the many things you might be inclined to place inside your vagina, I personally think that TOTM nailed it on the aesthetic front, fuchsia is actually one of my favourite colours and I generally think the fact it’s pretty does make it slightly easier to transfer over to using one.

Unlike the previous cup I was using TOTM is made from TPE instead of silicone (commonly menstrual cups are made from one of the two), I actually prefer the texture of TPE with this cup, it’s must more malleable, and one of the issues I was having with the other cup that’s made from silicone was that it was hurting when I removed it. Here’s a comprehensive post telling you the difference between silicone and TPE.

It also comes in a really cute bag and mine says ‘Be Kinder To Your Vagina’ on it which is ace and definitely won them some brownie points!

How The Cup Works:

For a more in-depth explanation on how to use a menstrual cup and my thoughts in general, you can check out this YouTube video here.

The TOTM cup comes in three different sizes, and you can check which one you will need by reading their criteria on the website (please note that they’re rough and generic estimates, for example, I use Cup 1 even though it’s designed for under 18 year olds who haven’t had sex yet (major LOLs).

The cup comes with air holes that allow you to make and break the seal, and it also comes with a little stem at the bottom that you can use to pull the cup down. As my cervix is quite low down, I have fully cut the stem off my cup because otherwise I find it irritating around the entrance to my vajayjay (sorry there’s no fun or non awkward way to discuss this). Due to the texture and material it is easily foldable and I found it very easy to place the cup inside. I also find it very easy to remove it.

When you get it you need to boil it in water for 5 minutes to disinfect it, and I then do this half way through my period (as my period lasts for 7-9 days on average) and then at the end of your period.

Have I Enjoyed Using The Cup?

Yes definitely! It 100% took some getting used to and I kept wondering if I was using it right. I also initially ordered the Cup 2 which is recommended for me based on my age, but it was waaay too big, so had to then order a Cup 1, which fits perfectly.

I have to still wear a panty liner at the start of my period as I have a very heavy flow and have noticed some spotting, however TOTM do great organic cotton liners, or I have recently discovered these period pants, which are great!

I also notice that towards the end of my period, where I’ve been using a cup for over a week, I tend to get a little bit sore, which is something that didn’t tend to happen with tampons, so I am working on reducing my usage of the cup at night time towards the end of my period and using panty liners or small pads instead. Think about how long it took you as a young girl to accustom to wearing tampons, I imagine it will be a similar transition for us as adults!

Benefits of TOTM’s Menstrual Cup

  • It’s cute
  • It’s environmentally friendly – you reduce your waste
  • You save money – yes it potentially seems expensive to be spending £20 on a cup, but within a few months you’ll already have saved money and you will continue to save over the years
  • You get to understand your body and your period better
  • It’s far healthier than tampons which leave behind fibres
  • TOTM are an awesome company with some fantastic values that align with my own, you can read more here

Should You Invest in a TOTM Menstrual Cup?

The bottom panty line… (hehe), yes! If you are a woman/human being who has menstrual bleeding I would 100% recommend trialling this cup. There are of course loads of different brands, and I am not saying that this cup is THE best one out there, as we are all different, but this is just the one that I happen to get along with the best and I am happy to continue using it!

Do you use a cup? Have you thought about using one? Have you tried and decided it’s not for you? I’d love to know so please leave a comment below!

Crystals, all of sudden your favourite Instagrammers seem to be using them, your favourite jewellery brand has started selling bracelets with crystals for love, or for luck, but what does it all mean? It can be a bit of a mine field, so I decided to write probably one of the most comprehensive blog posts I have ever written in the hopes that I can give you all the information I ever wanted in one page. Including my favourite crystals and their uses, how I generally use crystals, the science behind them, where I buy mine from, the books I use and much more.

How Do Crystals Work?

So let’s start by talking about what crystals can do, many people use crystals for different reasons, and they have been used throughout the history of humankind, I found this article which goes into this in more detail. If you googled this very question ‘How Do Crystals Work’ you may have found, like me, that it is actually very difficult to get a straight answer.

Here’s the straight answer: We don’t know yet.

There are theories about the vibrational elements of crystals, about how they can take our energy that we put out into the world and amplify it (what I believe), but as it stands, there is no scientific backing. This however does not mean they don’t work. ‘But Hannah… if there’s no scientific evidence, what’s the point? Surely it’s a load of rubbish?’ I hear you croon. Well, let me remind you that once upon a time people thought the earth was flat, because there was no scientific evidence to prove otherwise. Once upon a time someone thought we would be able to walk on Mars and everyone else thought they were crazy… so just always remember that!

However, we use crystals in our every day life without even realising, an article on energymuse.com points out that ‘quartz makes up 12% of the Earth’s crust and is used in almost every kind of technology, including time keeping, electronics, information storage, and more. If it’s possible for crystals to communicate through computer chips, then isn’t it possible that this vibrational energy could be transformed in other ways?’ Here is another great article that goes into detail about the more scientific elements of crystals.

My Must-Have Crystals

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz was the first crystal I ever bought, and I have about four different ones. Rose Quartz is the crystal of love, and isn’t just for someone who’s seeking a relationship. I use Rose Quartz as a reminder to be a loving human, always, trying to remove the judgement, and to open myself up to all kinds of love, including self love. I keep a large one on my bedside table, as this is said to help bring more love into your life. It’s healing properties extend out to healing emotional trauma, and it is known to be a very calming and relaxing crystal.

What does it look like: it’s pink quartz and can range in terms of tone, you can buy it either rough or polished

Clear Quartz

This is usually said to be the starter crystal, this is the one you buy to start your little collection. It is a master healer and can really be used for anything and everything. It can also be used to amplify other crystals. I have been told by several people to keep one near my head (e.g. under my pillow or on my bedside table) as I sleep, because it is very helpful with depression, mental illnesses and also hormone balancing! I quite often hold one during my meditations when I’m at home to help amplify or deepen the practice.

What does it look like: it’s totally transparent, is a quartz and can be bought either rough or polished

Amethyst

Amethyst is another good all rounder if you’re looking to start with a generic crystal. It comes in a whole host of different shades, and they’re good crystals to keep out in your house as ornaments as it is very good for purifying spaces and protecting you from harmful energy. It is also very calming, is good for meditation, and it works in the mental, physical and higher planes. So when I travelled to Bali in February my mum actually bought me an amethyst necklace to wear when I was travelling to protect me and also look after me in all those planes (it worked, even fell of a motorbike and only had a few grazes!)

What does it look like: it’s a purple quartz and can totally range in terms of shade, often with areas of differing depth and saturation

Labradorite

This is one of my favourite crystals! I wear it most days as it is said to be a major protective crystal, keeping you safe, particularly whilst travelling. It is also known as ‘the stone of magic’ and is said to increase your psychic abilities, it is also very good for enhancing self confidence and enables you to open up to the things the universe is putting into your path.

What does it look like: it is often dark grey in colour with a shimmery green or even blue tinge. It does range vastly however and I even have one that looks almost gold.

Citrine

Citrine is a stone all about abundance, prosperity and success. I keep mine in my purse as it is thought to help boost your money making power. It doesn’t ‘make you rich’ but it certainly opens you up to more opportunities, gives you clarity, more creativity, perseverance and mental strength. It’s also known as the business stone. Charge one up (more on that later) and keep one in your wallet for two weeks, and see if you notice any changes. It is also meant to be a great crystal for when you are starting a new project or a new venture.

What does it look like: this crystal tends to be yellow with flecks of orange, it is also a quartz

Green Aventurine

Green aventurine is very much linked to the environment, and is thought to be able to protect from environmental pollution. It is also the stone of luck, can help amplify self confidence, is another stone that attracts love (as it’s linked to the heart chakra) and is a good crystal for helping to strengthen relationships (romantic and friendship).

What does it look like: it’s green, duh, but you can also find it in other colours

Obsidian

One of the latest additions to my collection, I think the thing I like the most about this is its name (every time I say it in my head it sounds like Optimus Prime is saying it, lolz). I purchased it for my root chakra, as it is a grounding stone, it links you to the physical realm, as well as enables your soul to anchor into your body. It can enable you to delve deeper into your true self, enabled you to find your purpose and stimulates deep personal growth. It is very powerful so if you’re a newbie, it might not be the best one for you. But it works real magic. Be warned it can really open up some deep rooted issues.

What does it look like: it’s cooled lava and is a deep, rich black colour, almost reflective in its appearance.

Selenite

This unusual and yet beautiful crystal aids in mental growth, it enables you to make decisions with more clarity and also guides you close to your intuition. A newer stone for me but one that I am really glad that I got, it helps to promote honesty, within yourself, but also between you and those around you. It is linked very strongly to the moon too and can help you develop your intuitive capabilities and seek your divine truth (whatever that may be).

What does it look like: it’s white and iridescent, it’s very usual looking, almost milky, and can often have striations due to the way the crystals form.

Cleansing & Charging Your Crystals

Because crystals work with energies, they can cling onto them. So when you buy a new crystal, it’s important to cleanse it and then ‘charge’ it (give it its intention).

I cleanse mine by leaving them in sunlight/moonlight for 24 hours, I tend to leave them outside on my window sill as I have a little dip in mine to leave them. However I imagine doing it through a window will still work.

There are other ways to cleanse them, such as rinsing them with water.

There are loads of tutorials on how to charge your crystals, however, I just sit with my new cleansed crystal in my hands in my lap, mentally give it a purpose, and then meditate for 5 minutes, this works well for me personally.

What Do Crystals Mean To Me

For me, whether there is a scientific reason or no, I love my crystals. They remind me to be present, they remind me to be the best me I can be, and I can’t see any fault in that. Even if it is a placebo effect, does it matter? To me no.

Where I Buy My Crystals

Over the years I have bought them from several different places, however the main places I would now go to are:

What Crystal Books I Recommend

For further reading, you can get the following books:

Any questions at all! Do not hesitate to ask! If you enjoyed this/found it helpful, please let me know!

By Sally Gets Wardrobed

Ever since I was a little girl I’ve loved clothes, especially new clothes. Up until a couple of years ago I don’t think it would be an exaggeration to say I thought about new clothes almost every day. In the last 2 decades spent way too much of my salary and far too many hours shopping. I can recall Easter weekends spent almost entirely curating wishlists on ASOS. But somehow I also regularly had “nothing to wear”. My wardrobe was bulging with amazing pieces, mixed with mistakes bought in a state of panic and items I loved and wore to death alongside things that I only managed to wear once before the weather changed. I often tried on 3 different outfits before deciding what to wear to work and always bought something new if I had an event to go to or had to do something that scared me.

 

At the end of 2016 I decided to enter the world of capsule wardrobes. The decision to focus on a simpler, streamlined style coincided with starting the Mel Wells academy, which is where I met gorgeous Hannah. I think the process of learning to love myself and explore the things that light me up helped me to see that I could spend time enjoying clothes without needing to buy them all the frigging time. I also realised I use clothes to hide – my body sometimes, my lack of confidence in stressful situations often. And I use the serotonin buzz shopping brings to numb and distract when I’m feeling an emotion I don’t want to feel – sad, stressed, tired, anxious. You name it, clothes hide it.

 

I’ve always admired women who have a very clear sense of style. Coco Chanel in her Breton stripes, Diane Keaton in Annie Hall’s fabulous uniform, Alexa Chung and her cool nonchalance, Olivia Palermo and her sleek luxey look. So I decided to give capsule wardrobes a try. A quick google led me to Caroline Joy’s Un-Fancy blog and then to Project333. The rules vary slightly depending who you follow but basically you limit yourself to a very small number of items (usually between 30 and 40) and you wear only those items for a 3 month season. Each season you introduce a new wardrobe. Depending on how variable the weather is where you live and the volume of clothes you own you might swap out the whole lot or just a few key things at a time.

 

I’ve followed the process of building a capsule wardrobe every season for the last 2 years. I’ve had really successful seasons and less successful ones, but in that time I’ve become a complete convert. It’s not stopped me spending money on clothes – in fact I probably spend more on the clothes I do buy because I need them to last longer, but it has helped me in loads of ways, some of which I didn’t really expect. I’d go so far as to say it’s been life changing.

 

3 Ways having a capsule wardrobe has changed my life and could change yours

You free up space to focus on the things that are more important

Spending less time scrolling the Zara app and fewer days wandering around Westfield creates more time for other things. More time to do yoga, more time to spend with the people you love and more time to focus on looking after yourself.

It takes a lot less time to get dressed in the morning. And even more life changing, packing for trips is ridiculously easy. With fewer things to choose from you’d think that a feeling of panic would descend if you don’t have the perfect outfit but instead you just go with what you have, and over time you become much more aware of the things you feel are missing, and then just go out and buy them.

When you do shop it’s a completely different experience

It’s still OK to go shopping and to really love shopping. Just like any other addiction, the urge to buy things when stressed or down doesn’t entirely go away but in general shopping becomes a completely different experience. You focus on searching for the perfect pair of jeans or the perfect top in a particular colour rather than getting so overwhelmed with stuff and buying things that don’t go with anything else or look very similar to something you already own. You get to know which shops are the ones that most reflect your style and you gravitate to them first. The whole experience becomes a bit like a treasure hunt.

Capsule wardrobes also work for people who hate buying new clothes. Whilst personally I can’t understand how someone could not want to spend their Saturday on Oxford Street!! I have loads of friends who absolutely hate clothes shopping. They hate it because it brings up insecurities about their bodies – the hideous mirrors, the random sizing and the sadness that comes on when the idea you have in your head doesn’t match what you see in the mirror. Or they hate it because whilst they want to look great they can’t stand looking for clothes, they have no idea where to start and just find the whole experience really really boring. Focusing on a small number of items, centred on a key set of looks, and in a core colour palette really helps people find the pieces that will most work for them.

Spending time understanding your style helps you love yourself more

When you start focusing on what clothes make you feel and look good you stop blindly following random trends and start focusing on how your clothes can make you feel awesome. It becomes much less of a big deal if a trend comes along that doesn’t work for you. You realise it’s nothing to do with your body shape being ‘wrong’. You get less panicked about being ‘out of fashion’ because you’re focusing on owning your own style. When you find the ‘uniforms’ that work for you, you also generally feel good more often. You don’t leave the house in an outfit you later regret.

The occasions when I’ve tended to feel most self-conscious in the past weirdly now make me feel most inspired style wise. Parties, weddings, scary work occasions are now things I look forward to more because I’m developing more of a sense of what will make me feel good rather than panicking about finding an armour to hide behind.

Where to start?

There are some fantastic blogs and books on this topic but the best way to start is to just experiment. Set a total number of items goal and go with it. Be strict enough to make it a challenge but don’t be afraid to swap things in and out if your selection isn’t working and remember it’s supposed to be fun.

I could write a whole other blog about the process of building a capsule wardrobe but here are some core tips to get you started.

  1. Start with what you have. Pull everything out of your wardrobe and separate the things you love and the things you wear often from the rest. These items will form the starting point for your new style. Think about why you love them, test combining them in different ways. Throw out everything that makes you feel crap. Store everything else.
  2. Get inspired. Use Pinterest and Instagram to find people and looks that inspire you. Again, ask why – what is it about this person that gives me such a massive girl crush? What do I love about this look? Every season I create a mood board to help me focus on the overall aesthetic I’m looking for. Season by season and year by year I can see how my style is changing by the shifts in the overall mood.
  3. Find your colour palette. I’ve learnt that a capsule wardrobe works much better when you focus on a core set of colours. Things mix and match more easily and it helps as a quick way to filter when shopping. This takes a bit of time to work out, but once you understand what colours make you feel and look good the process becomes easier.
  4. Buy well. You end up wearing clothes more, which makes it more important to buy higher quality items. Many capsule wardrobe devotees focus also on sustainable brands. This seems easier in the US than the UK at the moment but times are definitely changing. It’s worth looking at the credentials of the people you’re buying from.
  5. Think about what you do in your real life not your ideal life. If you spend most of your time working from home and love hanging out in your leggings buy some gorgeous leggings and own that as part of your style. If you rarely go out to bars, you don’t need loads of clothes to wear to bars. See, simple!

 

Places to go if you want to know more…

Caroline Joy’s blog is a great place to start for advice on the process and gorgeous slow style inspo www.un-fancy.com

Courtney Carver’s style challenge Project333 is a good place to go for more advice on this topic https://bemorewithless.com/project-333/

The Curated Closest by Anuschka Rees is a fantastic book all about finding your style https://anuschkarees.com/curatedcloset/

The #whomademyclothes movement is a good place to start if you want to focus on building a sustainable wardrobe https://www.fashionrevolution.org/

And you can find me on Instagram @sallygetswardrobed to see my style hits, misses and moodboards

As it’s Earth Day today I thought it would be poignant to share ten easy ways that you can become more environmentally and reduce your impact on our planet, which is currently heaving and sputtering to a deathly halt trying to match our wants and requirements.

I shared an Instagram post with 10 facts about our impact on the environment, if you’d like to read those then head here.

If you’re reading this then I am hoping you understand the devastating impact we as human beings are currently having on our planet and how it really is in our hands, right now, in this very moment, to start to make changes. I know people say ‘start small’ but there is really no time waste, so if you can try to implement these from RIGHT NOW, then our planet will totally thank you for it, as will your future self and future generations to come.

  1. Ditch Single Use Plastics

A million plastic bottles are bought around the world every minute and the number will jump another 20% by 2021. But it’s not just bottles that we are using too much of, things like straws, plastic bags and packaging are being consumed on a monumental level every single day and hardly any of it is being recycled, most is going straight to landfill or into our oceans.

Ditch single use plastics by buying a reusable water bottle, a metal straw and some material tote bags for your shopping. You will also save money! I actually have a blog post that covers this so feel free to take a read of that too if you like.

  1. Buy your food locally and eat in Season

So you love an avocado smashed onto your sourdough every Sunday morning right? But do you have any idea of the carbon and water footprint of the food you buy? Our supermarkets are full to the brim with apples from Antigua, tomatoes from Tenerife and strawberries from Spain. The carbon footprint and the load on the planet of importing all these exotic foods from all over the planet are killing our Earth.

Instead of choosing things that have been flown from another country, why not look for produce that’s been grown in the UK, or better yet, head to a Farmer’s Market at the weekend, find a good green grocers near you and try buying meat from butchers instead. Do some research. If you’re super busy you can buy meal/veg boxes from companies online with are ethical and sustainable, check our Riverford here.

Also eating fruit and veg that are in season will be much better in reducing your carbon footprint and impact on the environment.

  1. Compost

I unfortunately can’t compost in my current flat, but if you have the potential of having a compost bin in your garden or have an organic waste bin then PLEASE USE ONE! Composting is essentially recycling organic waste, as opposed to it heading to landfill where it will be trapped and can’t reach oxygen which it needs in order to decay.

  1. Recycle Properly

Did you know that 60% of our rubbish that ends up going to landfill could have been recycled? Make sure you check out your local council’s website where they should give you information on what recycling they take and how it works. Make sure you take the time before you throw something away to see if it can be recycled. If I am out and I have rubbish on me that can be recycled and I can’t find a bin, I usually will take it home with me to recycle there. If you put something in your recycling bin that cannot be recycled, often this will contaminate what CAN be recycled and therefore it means that the contaminated produce (even if originally it could be recycled) will be sent to landfill.

  1. Simply Buy Less

We have got into a habit of thinking we need more more more. When really we need so much less! We don’t need so many of the clothing and products we have in our homes. If we bought less, this would help the planet so much more. I am slowly trying to become more minimalist in my life, which is proving quite hard for me as it seems I hold onto things quite strongly! But these guys are really informative and are doing some interesting things so take a read if minimalism is something you’re interested in!

  1. Turn the lights off

I won’t go into why power plants are bad for the environment, that’s year 9 stuff from school, but simply turning the lights off when you leave the room or turning things fully off (not just leaving them on standby) can only help our planet for the better.

  1. Buy Eco Friendly and Sustainable Products

Again there is so much detail to go into here, but take a look at the products you are buying, and the brands you are buying them from. Your skin care products, your deodorant, your kitchen supplies… and above all your clothing. I think I need to go into another blog post just focusing on fast fashion and its horrendous impacts on our planet, but essentially, try to avoid buying clothing made from artificial materials, opt instead for organic cotton or bamboo, by pieces you will wear for years, ignore fashion trends and stick to your own style that works for you. Do some research before you buy something from a company, to make sure that their ethical morals align with your own. Here is an article that goes into fast fashion and why it is so awful in more detail.

  1. Eat Less Meat/Animal Products

I am not going to ask you to go full vegan, but the environmental impact of the animal farming industry is monumental, even if you went vegan or vegetarian just one day or week, or maybe went veggie during the week, the reduction of green house gas emissions and water pollution would be epic.

  1. Take Shorter Showers

Water is becoming more and more scarce, right now us living here in the UK may not be aware of this but by 2025, an estimated 1.8 billion people will live in areas plagued by water scarcity. This is awful, and really not very far away in terms of time, it’s not going to be very long until we really see how we are impacting our environment.

  1. Do a Beach Clean Up

If you live near the beach, or even the next time you’re near one on holiday, why not do a beach clean up? Or even search online to see if there is already one scheduled so that you can go along and join? It feels so productive to actually be a part of clearing up our environment and helps to save our oceans.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and have come away with some food for thought, do you have any other ideas? I would love to know so please leave a comment below!

In the summer of 2016 I was diagnosed with mild clinical depression – after about 6 months of being continuously unhappy, crying a lot, feeling hopeless and getting to the point where I just didn’t really know why life was worth living anymore. I am really pleased to say that since that time it has got considerably better, I was put back on the contraceptive pill to help stabilise my mood, I made some lifestyle changes and I didn’t really feel affected for about a year or so after that. In November last year (2017) I was taken off the pill due to optical migraines and I definitely noticed some changes in my mood and outlook.

Over the past 6 months my mood has fluctuated greatly and I am often suddenly struck with a feeling of being completely overwhelmed, unhappy, emotional and hopeless. My depression isn’t severe enough that it prevents me from getting out of bed in the mornings, and for that I am overly grateful, but it can affect me quite strongly in that I often feel like I have no emotions whatsoever, can cry at the tiniest thing, or in fact nothing at all, and I have noticed it can greatly affect how I teach a yoga class. It manifests itself in the form of making mundane tasks, like looking at emails really daunting. There is no rhyme or reason to this, my inbox is never very full and the emails I usually do receive are from people I know and are to do with projects I have initiated and am in control of. Even responding to simple Whatsapp messages feels like too much and I can sometimes end up with about 20 unread messages on my phone after a day or so of not reading them. My tidiness is also extremely affected, I am not a very tidy person, organised yes, tidy no. But before I was struck with depression my flat and bedroomed remained fairly tidy. Over the past year this is something I have noticed has got out of hand and I also have noticed some tendencies to find it hard to throw things away, my life is very cluttered and this in turn creates stress, it’s a pretty vicious cycle to be honest. I have so many amazing plans for the next 12 months, but sometimes I can’t even sit down at my computer or tidy my room, and it does have a huge impact on me in many ways I think I have avoided addressing.

I guess for a long time I felt that because I was still functioning, and because I still have good days where I feel good and where I am happy, that perhaps I had no right to talk about my depression. Because I know I have friends who have days where they literally cannot get out of bed, or where they can’t go to social events with the people they love because their anxiety is telling them they don’t want them there. I almost felt like my illness didn’t count because I still am able to get up every day and go to work. But I think the percentage of people who deal with depression on the level that I do is probably use, and when it is mild it is almost harder to realise that depression is what you have, heck sometimes it takes me a whole 24 hours of feeling like shit and feeling like life is crap before I click and realise that actually this is my depression talking. So I thought by sharing my story with you, perhaps it might help even just one of you, or make you feel more like you are able to understand what is happening in your own head, or maybe even understand what is happening for a loved one in your life.

Tips on functioning through a dark day

In addition, I wanted to share with you how I do pull through on the darker days, the little things that I do that seem to help, these are in no specific order:

 

Move Your Body

It can be a run, a yoga flow, heading to the gym, absolutely anything that works for you. Moving your body, getting the blood flowing and hopefully releasing some endorphins into your system is a sure fire way to make yourself feel a little better. Exercise is something that doctors always mention when they talk to a new patient about clinical depression. Even if it takes you an hour or arguing with yourself to get yourself up and out, just try, if you don’t feel better you can stop, but it’s always worth a shot.

 

Talk To Someone

The classic depressive internal rhetoric of ‘I can’t talk about this to anybody because they won’t understand/they won’t believe me/they don’t care’ (circle as needed) is hard to shake, and I do feel lucky that generally speaking I am not worried about talking about the emotional nitty gritty, having said that, it can be hard to talk about it sometimes. But have that person in your mind who you know won’t judge you, who you know understands you and who will undoubtedly be able to give you some advice. I find it hard to talk to people who have never had depression, because actually, it’s a very hard thing to describe and if the person themselves hasn’t experienced something similar, their advice may not be helpful, so if you can find someone who either currently suffers or has done in the past, not specifically with depression but perhaps with another mental illness it can be super helpful.

 

Follow Motivating People on Social Media

Sure social media has its cons, but you cannot underestimate the power of motivational quotes or instastories of people you follow who may be going through the same thing. I think that’s why I share what I share, because if one person sees my story and it makes them feel better, then I consider my job done. So in turn, someone I follow might have something valuable for me to listen to. Today for example, I watched two instastories from two separate people and one was about finding motivation when you’re not motivated, and the other was someone who woke up like me feeling relatively shit, and her ‘don’t let this ruin your Monday’ schpeel actually helped me.

 

Remind Yourself That This Is Temporary

The beauty of mild depression is that it is mild. It is not so overwhelming that you don’t have good days. I have a lot of good days, and remembering that tomorrow I will probably wake up with a totally different attitude definitely helps. Just like physical illnesses or injuries, our emotions and hormones are just PHYSICAL things, although they may not feel it, because they manifest in our minds, remembering this, remembering that what you are feeling is not YOU, it doesn’t define you, and brighter days are just around the corner helps me a lot to just settle into how I am feeling and just run with it as best I can.

 

Do Something Satisfying

What satisfies you on a materialistic level? Maybe going through your wardrobe and clearing out some clothes you don’t wear will make you feel better, I went through a random drawer that hadn’t been touched in months this morning and honestly it felt so good to just cleanse my surroundings a little that it made me feel marginally better. Maybe a good clean of your bathroom or a hoovering session will not only make you feel like you’ve done something productive, but will make your surroundings a little nicer too, win win.

 

Write Down How You Feel

If you don’t journal, then start. Getting words down onto paper (or onto the notes app of your phone) is very healing, and it can also help you to unjumble all of those crazy thoughts that are flying around your head 24/7. And if you don’t know how to journal, that’s cool, because neither do I really, all I do is pick up my pen and start to write, it doesn’t really matter what form it is, maybe you ask yourself a question, for example if you’ve been feeling anxious about a situation, get a notebook and a pen and write at the top ‘Why am I feeling so anxious about X?’ and then just write out your answer. If this doesn’t gel with you, you could write it in a letter format, sometimes I write the universe a letter, or when I was going through a breakup with my ex I would often write a letter to him (that obviously I never sent).

Just getting words down will make you feel so much better, it also allows you to say things that perhaps you wouldn’t feel comfortable saying to someone, because although it’s good to be open and honest sometimes there are still things we don’t feel comfortable talking about to others, and this way you still get to say it without the fear of judgement.

 

I hope this has been helpful, if you have anything else to add then feel free to leave a comment with any tips for anyone reading this!