Tomorrow is International Women’s Day across the globe, a chance to really celebrate everything it is to be female and empowered. A few different blog post ideas crossed my mind, but the one that seemed to stick and be most relevant was to share with you the things I would say to a much younger Hannah to help her on her quest to greatness and goddessyness. Most of these aren’t gender specific and if you’re a guy reading this wanting to embrace his inner god then welcome and enjoy, but these next 5 tips are things I have learnt along the way that should enable you to become the best and most empowered you you have ever been and to ignite your inner goddess. So without further ado, let’s go!

1. Love Yourself

Seems simple and it’s very on-trend right now, but self love, self acceptance and self compassion are paramount to you becoming the goddess you truly are. If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t put your health and well-being first, then how can you expect to direct your energy into your passion projects and building the life you dream of? Self love is different for everyone but when it gets down to it, it’s fighting that voice in your head that tells you you aren’t good enough, that says you’re too this and too that, and accepting all facets of your body and your mind and soul.

2. Say No to Shit You Don’t Want To Do

Another toughie. Us girls are good at saying yes. We’re so scared to hurt/offend that we don’t even think about saying no, even if it’s something that you really don’t want to do. If you don’t want to do it, if it’s going to make you tired, if it’s going to take you away from something else you’d rather be doing, say no. You don’t have to insult the person you’re saying no to, you don’t even have to apologise for it. Bottom line is we need to say no more, and get comfortable doing it.

3. Stop Competing with Other Women

We’re raised to compete. We’re raised to be the best. We’re raised to covet that guy’s attention, because back in ye olde times women were a powerful pawn in a family, and so it made financial sense to have to vie for a guy’s attention. Luckily, we don’t need to do that shit anymore, because our society is a little less twisted. So stop comparing yourself to that other girl you know, understand that a rose and a tulip really can’t be compared because they’re different flowers, know that they’re both beautiful and magical in their own way, and support the women around you, because I swear to goddess the only way this planet is going to survive is if we support our fellow girl gang.

4. Get Rid of Toxic People In Your Life

There’s a saying that you are the collective energy of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Now think about those 5 people. Are they people whose energy you love? Do they reflect the life you want to create? Or are they draining your energy a little? Do they make you feel shit about yourself? If it’s the latter, perhaps remove them from your life. And I know how hard this is. I’ve recently stopped talking to an old friend, because we simply drained each-other. It was kind of a mutual decision and it still feels sad, but I feel much better off not having that energy in my life, and I’m sure they do too. And that’s not to say we won’t end up being friendly again in the future, but for now, for whatever reason, it just isn’t working.

This can be a hard pill to swallow because again, we’re hardwired to worry about what people think too much, and we’d never want to hurt someone we care about, but it comes back to point number one. Do you love yourself? If you do, you have to make those tough decisions sometimes.

5. Start Manifesting What You Want

Some of you may read this and think what the hell is manifesting? Well, in short, manifestation is the bringing to life of something, making it real and true, and known to the world. I am currently manifesting a really big thing in my life, and when I said I am manifesting it, I mean I am putting out into the world that this thing is going to happen, and by doing this I am 100% certain it will come to fruition. There are lots of different ways of manifesting things, and if you want to know more there are loads of articles on Google, or perhaps I can even write a blog post about manifesting things? But look up manifestation as well as the Law of Attraction and start implementing that shit.

So there you have it, my five top things I wish I’d been able to tell my younger self, and five things that I truly believe will allow you to grow higher and stronger. Do you have any tips? Have you started implementing any of these? Let me know in a comment below

Since I’ve started sharing my new moon ritual ideas and just general love for the moon over on my Instagram account @hannahrosecluley, more and more people have started asking me more questions about my ritual, so I thought I would write out a blog post explaining what I do every new moon.

Before I begin, just to explain, the new moon is the first phase of the lunar (moon) cycle, when the moon is on the same side of the Earth as the sun, and therefore the sunlight shining on the moon’s surface can’t be seen on us down on Earth because it’s on the other side of the moon. We have a new new moon (ha) roughly every 30 days. So with the new moon we can’t actually see it from Earth, but obvs it’s still there. In the Hebrew, Chinese and Hindu calendars, the new moon signifies either the start of their month, or an important date to set new goals or start working on new projects.

Many people believe (and especially throughout history), that, just as the oceans are effected by the moon’s cycles, so are we. Both the moon and sun have a gravitational pull on the Earth, and therefore on humans, animals and plants, there is no scientific studies that prove that the moon truly does affect us, but sometimes you don’t need a study to back up what you already know (like really, people go crazy around a full moon and my sleep is always fucked up, I don’t need a study to tell me whether it’s related or not).

Whether or not there’s a connection, I personally love the moon (it’s so pretty hey!) and I love that I have a firm place every 30 days or so to sit down, check in with myself, meditate and do my new moon ritual and goal setting. Before I explain, I would suggest a few things:

  • Get Moonology by Yasmin Boland – goes into so much detail on the moon and it’s my moon encyclopedia!
  • Get a note book or journal that you can use purely for your new moon rituals
  • Get yourself a nice candle or some palo santo for cleansing the air
  • Download the free app ‘The Moon’, it adds all full and new moons into your phone calendar and you can see what star sign the new/full moon will be in
  • Dedicate 20-30 mins 2-3 days up until the new moon to do your ritual
  • Create a happy, warm, calm and welcoming space for your ritual

My New Moon Ritual

Here’s how I do my new moon ritual:

What you will need:

  • Notebook & pen
  • Candle/palo santo/incense
  • Crystals (optional)
  • Quiet space
  • My phone for meditation timer (I use one called ‘Meditation’)

What I do:

  • Set everything up & light my candle/incense/palo santo
  • Pull 3 cards from my ‘The Universe Has Your Back Deck’ for some nice loving inspo
  • Write down a list of things I want to achieve in the next month, get real specific and make them realistic. For example if you have an overarching goal of ‘Move to the countryside’ then start to think of the smaller steps you need to take.
  • I then take a moment to just sit with those goals, and I manifest them, which means I truly start to believe in my heart that they’re not just ‘going’ to happen, but that it’s already a done deal, and that I don’t even need to worry about it. Yes I may need to work towards them, but I don’t have to feel anxious that they won’t come true, because they will.
  • I create my own affirmation for the month that is relevant to my goals. You can find loads of affirmations online if you need inspiration, don’t feel shy about using one someone else wrote.
  • Meditate on my goals, so after the manifestation I set them in place with a clear mind, sometimes I hold a relevant crystal in my hands if it feels right
  • I ‘ohm’ three times to seal my ritual

Please bear in mind this is my own practice and I have worked out what feels right for me, what feels right for you may be totally different!

Do you have a new moon ritual, if so how do you do yours?